God's Hand

Where is God's hand in a situation where a man beats his wife senseless in order for him to feel anything but numb?
Where is God's hand when a child unexpectedly dies when the parent looks away for two seconds?
Where is God's hand when your friend gets a disease that only miracles can cure?
Where is God's hand in the worst situations that you could possibly imagine?
Where is God's hand? Because I don't see it here. There is no control here. What do these people get out of their suffering? Pain? Grief?
And then I thought, "Ah, but what if these people grow? What if these people needed that in order to be who God created them to be? What if those difficult situations were tools to help us become closer to God?"
Why couldn't it be easy?
My answer to that is if we had easy, then we wouldn't know God in a depth that would bring us closer to him. We would be cold and distant. Only taking in God through stories other people tell, not our own.
So there is control in God's hand. And there always will be.